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one fine evening

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The advantage of age is that when your children are all grown up and moved out, you have the house to yourself for whatever fun games you care to play. Games, that when we were first married, we were probably too shy and inhibited to play. Society and  upbringing was just so different then as it is now.

Basically, I believe the Internet has freed the libido, because you can see and read so much about any sexual activity or fetish to be more aware and accommodating. Depending on the topic you blog about, you also get encouragement from strangers who become friends,even though you may never meet in person.

back to the topic.... spanking... sex .... wine and lobster...

I sent Cindy a email:
Hi sweetie:

How about you spank me (it has been along time since I have been properly spanked),

then we make love

and afterwards eat lobster and drink some wine....

Well, Cindy happily agreed, and I purchased the New England Lobster and wine, and dessert for the evening.

When supper time rolled around, Cindy took a leisurely bath, donned some very sexy lingerie, and called me to the bedroom. I had on white lacy panties.
She asked me to get something leather, and I retrieved the leather heart shaped metal studded paddle, and handed it to Cindy, who promptly sat on the spanking chair....
A little pat on her leg, and I lowered myself over her knees, where first she lowered my panties a little to secure my erection between her thighs.  Then the spanking started full throttle, no warm-up, no let-up, and varying the pattern from one spot to alternating cheeks to he back of my legs, and not stopping while she bemusedly, and with a smile in her voice, commented how well I was dancing as she kept spanking.
Cindy finally stopped, and started fondly and gently massaging my bottom, but as I started to move off of her knees, she responded " oh you are not going anywhere yet, and began afresh raining spanks all over my bottom with vigor and enjoyment... I have no idea how many spanks, as I had not even started to count when the first onslaught occured, so this second  spanking simply added to the fire, my yelping, and dancing...

When Cindy stopped, I slipped to my knees, and orally began thanking her...She crossed her legs over my back for easier and fuller access, and I was delighted to lick her nectar...
after a little while, with  Cindy nearing a  climax, we moved so that I sat on the chair and Cindy straddled me, and eventually we moved to the bed and slowly and passionately made love in a few more positions...before both having mind blowing screaming orgasms...

Dinner was avocado, tomatoes, lobster, corn, and dessert. and did I mention some fine wine...

We remarked about what fabulous sex we have. I attribute at least some of it to the intense passions started by spanking, talking sexually while fucking, wearing lingerie, relaxing, and being so terribly in love. Not bad after more than 38 years married...

Spank, make love, enjoy life, it is over far too soon..
bottoms up
red

THINKING WHILE SPANKING SOMEONE IS ALWAYS REQUIRED

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I think it is quite proper to explain a little for those who might have just come into the spanking scene, and have not really thought it through.
It is very easy to be a novice, see the bloodied or bruised and welted bottoms on some websites, and think that this is just a normal spanking.

It is very easy for a spankee with a new spanker to become numbed by the first few strokes of the spanking, and thus have no idea how severely  damaged their bottom is becoming.

Worse idea ever, is to think that this is what you should be giving to give a true spanking.

As it says above,  

HOWEVER YOU SPANK, MAKE SURE YOUR SPANKEE STAYS SAFE.


and lastly:

JUST IN CASE YOU THOUGHT THIS POST WAS TOO SERIOUS
SO ENJOY LIFE, SENSIBLY
BOTTOMS UP
RED

pegging with a smile

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Well, since we have experienced pegging, we have also made love, without spanking. MAking love is wonderful, whether after spanking, or on it's own.
 
 We try to say exciting things at times while making love, and besides my saying how I appreciate being spanking by Cindy, and spanking Cindy when the opportunity or behavior warrants a spanking.
Cindy responded that she had enjoyed pegging, and wearing the cock.... WOW!!!
I can imagine we will try again in the near future (like in a month or so)
In  the mean time, you might like to visit the following site, which is the Best I have yet to find...


enjoy life, in all it's varieties



peggedforafemdom:  Don’t worry, I’ll be gentle ;) http://peggedforafemdom.tumblr.com

bottoms up
Red

the benefits of a sore bottom

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I have copied this from a blog entitled Four Red Cheeks, but this blog is now private by invitation only. I have added a couple of words in bold to the posting.

Please note the well thought out use of CBT: Corrective Bottom Treatment/Therapy.
The blogger DG_UK (darling girl living in the UK)

The benefits of a sore bottom

Some of the benefits of a well smacked bottom have long been understood..
the endorphin rush that is created by physical chastisement in particular.
However, I have long been struck by how getting a good spanking just seems to have all manner of therapeutic effects..as a reliever of stress, a blower away of cobwebs, a cleanser of the day-to-day crap, a creator of a "clean slate" free of guilt and so on...a girl(or man) who is spanked regularly just seems to be happier and lighter in her (his) life.

I wonder what medical science has to say about all this? And whether spanking should not be offered on the NHS as a cure-all for the nation's collective neuroses?:)

One other thing that a smacked bottom gives me, is the sensation of being cared for, and that I can admit that I get things wrong, I make mistakes, but that I can ask for support and help and guidance, and not be seen as weak, far from it.

I remember you saying once, darling, that I needed CBT..Corrective Bottom Treatment/Therapy. I know I need that regularly.
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anon wrote: Corrective Bottom Treatment is used in our marriage. Both my wife and I have used spanking to clear the air quickly. properly administered a hairbrush can quickly convince the recipient not to repeat the misdoing.


********* very briefly: My thoughts:


The benefits for a relationship in solving problems by spanking, certainly far outweigh the soreness when your bottom is being spanked. This is easy to say while I am seated at a keyboard, and reasonably easy to say a few minutes or hours after the spanking. However, during the spanking, I many times wonder why I ever requested that Cindy spank me whenever she feels it will benefit our relationship.


However, this can only work if both partners accept this as a problem solving manner. The problem has been addressed, a spanking has been given, and unless the problem re-surfaces, then it should not be mentioned again as a problem. This can be a totally one way street, where only one is ever spanked, it does not need both people being spanked.


Last thought for a relationship: hopefully the SPANKER can learn to enjoy this problem solving method.

Personally, I always love photos of women smiling while they are spanking a man, and have now added smiling photos only of pegging situations.

bottoms up
Red

Advice for the beginner contemplating Domestic discipline

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I have copied this from a website, but changed the names and any identifiable information. ...

Hi. My name is Cynthia, and I have a few questions for everyone.

First of all, I have never done any spanking, and am not exactly sure how I feel about it. Are there women who got into it later in life with a partner that enjoyed the discipline? What were your feelings when this all began for you?

I have seen some pictures that look a bit disturbing to me, but I can somehow see getting the bottom warmed a bit. How much of a difference is there between a reasonable spank, and one that leaves welts, and bruises.

This does lead me to my other question. Do you know if there has been any problem with any reporting of such problems, especially if partners break up and they have been taking pictures along the way?

I would guess that many of you use contracts for just such cases, to be signed by both parties. I think this is a good idea. My partner has shown me such contracts. At this time I am not ready to do any signing.

I just want to see what my comfort level is. It does go against what I was brought up with, and have difficulty with the idea at times. I am willing to give this a try, as I know how much it means to my partner. Any advice, suggestions, or warnings would be of help.
Thanks.
Cynthia

************ One response:

Hello Cynthia, my name is Joanne, and I like you were introduced to this lifestyle, by my partner and husband David, hmmmmm my first reaction was to be completely honest I said something like *Are you crazy?*

I thought who in their right minds would want to be spanked, not me I don't do pain, I tried it a couple of times and saw how much David enjoyed it, I thought OK this is weird lol Then he wanted me to do discipline spanking, the more I thought about this I thought ok maybe this could work, he did need some discipline in his life.

That was almost 20 years ago. I have been doing discipline spanking since then. Sometimes he wishes he would have never mention this to me, but guess what TOO late now LOL.

I am not into leaving welts and I hate to leave bruises, but some people need or want that. Contracts are an excellent idea, David and I have one.

Start off slow and I am sure that your husband will help you with this. If you are not comfortable with giving hard spankings then go with your heart and do the best you can.
I am sure your husband will understand this.

Hope I helped you out some.
Joanne

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One other reply from a woman giving advice:

Its wonderful that you are willing to learn and to try this for yourself and your partner. As I mentioned before, allow this to come naturally and take from it what you feel benefits both of you. As you grow with experience and knowledge of the lifestyle and each other, you will find that DD can become a very normal aspect of your lives.


Always remember that it has a place and time and it is unrealistic to expect this to be a 24/7 sort of thing. Couples often spend so much time and effort into this and forget to connect on the more important things in life.

Why men enjoy this has always been an interesting topic of discussion just as it is for Us. I know that for Myself, I really, really enjoy this. I'm not just going through the motions. I'm not pretending.
Barbara.

I always welcome every female readers insight, especially how they were approached by their partner about Domestic Discipline, or how they initiated the discussion with their partner. What their initial thoughts were then, and what they are now, would greatly help any readers contemplating the lifestyle.I would like to know how many people visited professional spankers before broaching the topic with their partner, and how many no longer need to visit because their partner now deals with DD on their own.

Bottoms up
red

real spankings creator's tumblr

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Tumbling around the internet, brought this little gif to light. we have never used mouth soaping, but when you look at this gif, you can see it just might be effective, specially either before a spanking,or afterwards.
 profanity-will-not-be-tolerated
http://michaelrmasterson.tumblr.com/post/43491907661/profanity-will-not-be-tolerated

Profanity will not be tolerated.

However, what is better than this gif, is that it provided me with a link to a site that I did not know existed....

http://michaelrmasterson.tumblr.com

"Discipline as an Art Form. I am the creator and producer of Realspankings.com & RealspankingsInstitute.com. For more than 15 years I have been producing original spanking content for the Internet. My content is highly featured on Tumblr, so I thought I would give it to you from the source."


I wish I had the foresight to have started an internet site like Micheal did. This site is chock full of photos and gifs from over the years

so if you enjoy seeing women

 being spanked
this is definitely the site to visit


The rationale for the wonderful Kailee baring her breasts
"School dress code policy requires that all girls wear a bra, failure to do so results in a hard 10 swat paddling from the Vice Principal."
here is another of Kailee's bare bottom during a spanking.
bottoms up
Red

F/M : husband requests and receives a spanking

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Sometimes I feel like I need to be spanked, when Cindy has not spanked me for a significant time.  Due to family issues, I went about a month without being spanked, and had been spanked only once since everything has calmed down. That was last week, so in my mind one spanking in  about a month and a half.

Thus, I wrote the following email to Cindy yesterday:

"This is easier to write than ask in person...

Please spank me with a significant spanking for the disagreement yesterday.

I can get very dominant when you are perturbed, to avoid being spanked.

Thus, that behavior needs being thoroughly spanked away, although I am afraid it will need a number of repetitions before I learn the lesson.

suggestion: whenever you are even slightly annoyed and briefly think you should be spanking me, take charge and inform me to go get the ... bath brush and a leather strap, or whatever  you want, and bring it to me immediately...  otherwise.. i can out argue  or  become huffy and fluff off your complaint...

i will be happy being more submissive, as my way is not always the right  nor the best way..

As much as we both love sex, you do not have to make love at all after spanking me until the day later or two, whenever you want, with my encouragement always.

You used to spank me harder, where a grey patch appeared on both cheeks, and the redness remained for most of a day, and reappeared the next day after a shower. However, you might after the bath brush use some leather implement, to redden the entire bottom beyond the two circles in the picture. You used to spank a greater area, but please do not use your hand like before, just in case it injures your hand.

So, please, whenever a spanking is needed, do it so that I learn to modify my behavior...

love always"

Well, Cindy followed through on the letter shortly afterwards, in the same day.

Bare bottomed, over her knee, with Cindy wearing leather high heel shoes to elevate her knees, sitting on the spanking chair, and my upper body resting on the bed.... (position used for longer spankings)


First the bath brush.... (why did I ever suggest that) made a reconnection in my spanking life, hard and fast, and many many spanks... leading to a predictable yelping and feet dancing  on my part to show my uninhabited appreciation of Cindy's efforts....  Cindy varied her patterns from many oin one spot to alternating cheeks then back in another spot... and my bottom was on fire...
Cindy then put the bath brush down, and picked up the leather strap, and whaled away at my bottom.
Wow!!!!.. I made no effort to try to count spanks, as my mind was simply a blur of owwing and dancing while being spanked.

Cindy finally stated it was over, and that I could get up. I immediately thanked Cindy for spanking me, and was permitted to look in the mirror. My bottom was on fire, and red in most places

Cindy during the spanking had given me a reason why she was spanking me for misbehavior when we could do nothing about it.

When the spanking was finished, she asked if I felt I needed more spanking, and i suggested that a few more spanks would be useful. I retrieved the dominator, stood upright to give access to top and bottom  of my bottom, and Cindy delivered a hard spank... YOWL!!!! HOWL!!!

Cindy methodically gave I think ten spanks, each of which was received with a howler of pain from me...

When finished, I thanked Cindy, and put the implements away...

I truly felt totally spanked, and LOVED...

My bottom today is still sore, and still shows some red spots...


MORAL of the story: ask and you just might receive....

PS: we made lover later that day, and it was fabulous... but before making love I was again spanked ( a short spanking ) with the implement that Audrey is holding... and it was effective on a already extremely sore bottom

This photo of me:was the one I sent Cindy showing how she sometimes only reddens a portion of my bottom,
whereas this spanking had red everywhere including the top of my legs. And yes, those are the first pair of panties I had ever purchased, a lacy type panties that I find erotic.

PPS: we may still have to deal with two days ago disagreement...


bottoms up
Red

Have you ever visited a professional spanker?

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This thought comes to mind, in wondering how (mostly) men deal with their desire to be spanked, but have yet to have the courage to speak openly with the woman they love.

I have no knowledge of the reverse situation of a woman wanting to be spanked, but professional women do spank Ladies also. There is a plenitude of woman spankers offering their services, as opposed to men offering their services. http://www.misssarahgregory.com/
Just before asking you to honestly answer this question (remember it is anonymous), the photo to the left is one of many you will find on the website:http://www.misssarahgregory.com/ . 
I am, in no way, endorsing or not endorsing the quality of the service she offers, but I am very pleased to see a photo of a woman clearly enjoying giving a spanking to a man.
Sarah is experienced on both sides of the wooden hairbrush, besides most other spanking implements.
Sarah lives in Connecticut, but travels frequently to California and other parts of the country. She is very willing to spank both men and women.

Perhaps, you might comment about your experience, if you have visited a professional, and how it compares to any other spankings you have had in your life.

I sincerely believe that professionals like Sarah provide a good and wonderful outlet for people, and that this service is a benefit to society. 

If any other professional spankers would like me to post a few pictures and link to their site, please email me granting permission and the link information.

A poll for you to think about bottoms up                                  

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bottoms up
RED

Discussing your desire to be spanked with your partner

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A person emailed this to me a few days ago, and I think it is worth re-printing for everyone. I have added my reflections in blue.
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I've been reading your blog for some time now, and always find it to be a fascinating look at what appears to be a solid relationship between you and your spouse. (it is)

Over the years I've confessed my interest in spanking to my wife, and on occasion she'd pull me over her lap in a playful way, mostly as a prelude to sex. It was always fun and enjoyable, but for me, something was always missing.

I finally wrote her a long letter one day and told her how I felt, which prompted a long discussion. Her fear of hurting me, of not knowing what to do inhibited her desire to explore this further.(The fear of hurting the person you love is a reasonable and major stumbling block! It takes time, and seeing that you are in no way harmed, for your wife to begin to feel comfortable with spanking you to solve problems that she perceives in your relationship. This is one reason why it is so essential for you to thank her for spanking you, immediately after the spanking has ended, and probably again in a few days. Then you must do your absolute best to rectify the reason for the spanking, so that she sees positive results). (More information is available in the lifestyle kit from the disciplinary wives club, which I recommend you purchase.)
Still, it must have registered with her. A recent birthday prompted her to begin "threatening" me with a spanking, one to mark all of my years on this earth. Well, the birthday came and went and I did something stupid to wreck the mood of the day, and that was that....until the following day.

She greeted me in the late afternoon with an order to lower my pants. I pushed them down, and she said, "no, no, the underwear too." I was grinning, but there was something about her demeanor that told me this was not about fun. She told me to step out of my clothes completely and had me place myself over her lap at the end of the bed (a somewhat awkward position for both) and proceeded to begin lecturing me about a litany of things on her mind.

She was dead serious, and with that proceeded to give me a long spanking with her hand, lecturing the entire time. In the end, she told me to get up, gave me a kiss, and told me to remain that way for the rest of the afternoon so she could be reminded of her handiwork.

Have to say, despite her lack of experience, she did quite a job. (It is best never to judge how she gives a spanking.) My bottom remained red for some time afterwards. I thanked her for doing what she did, and apologized for my poor behavior the day earlier. We'll see if this ultimately results in more trips over her knee down the road, but for now I'm pleased that it seems to have worked out for us both.

Regards,
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Good luck Sir. If ever your wife wants to write to me privately, I can offer whatever advice she might like. However, every couple has their own unique situation. I recommend that you purchase her a real wooden hair brush, or the 'old reliable' from the DWC, so that she can be more effective, without hurting her hand. It is your bottom that should be punished, not her hand.

bottoms up
Red

fun in Britain

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Welcome to the hilariously-named villages locals insist are lovelier than they sound


What we always want to be: A
never a
 and could this be a picture of
sex at the beach can be fabulous, but do watch out  for
 and a place exists for all pegging lovers
 but some people might think I  am just  a
keep smiling
Location: for a HAPPY BOTTOM:
Dorset, UK  Comments: A street in the town of Wimborne Minster, in Dorset, South West England.
Not certainif the bottom is happy, but the top certainly is...
bottoms up
Red

captions are wonderful

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I have been trolling tumblr sites, and have found many items of interest.....
so remember....
 and I think you have earned a spanking for your behavior
and
when the spanking
has finished, you had better be smiling and thanking me for your spanking...
Hope you like some of these

bottoms up
Red

husband well spanked and loved

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Keeping track of spankings and reporting for people's enjoyment  gets sometimes difficult.

Two or three days ago , I said something at breakfast that resulted in Cindy having me stand up, bare my bottom, and bend over for a quick spanking with the wooden food stirrer.  This definitely reminds one to be fully awake at the breakfast table, or suffer the consequences.
Yesterday, we had a little discussion in the car while driving downtown, where I suggested we could have fun when we returned home with maybe some spanking, or pegging, or using Cindy's vibrator, or whatever she desired.

The title of the post lets you know what happened. After Cindy had bathed and put on sexy lingerie, and myself wearing panties, Cindy came and snuggled and made out for a while on the sofa. Then, it was off to the bedroom, where Cindy promptly sat on the spanking chair, and requested I retrieve something that is leather.

I retrieved the heart shaped metal studded paddle, and the 5 finger leather paddle. Cindy had be turn around standing, lowered my panties, and had me bend over as she spanked hard and strong on my bottom. This is a position we have not used before, and Cindy concentrated on the top half of my bottom, staying in one place until my squirming and owwing and trying to raise up a bit on my  toes to give a slightly different place for the spanks demonstrated how effective her spanks were being received. It is a momentary relief for a couple of spanks on the other cheek, but you are aware that the same fire is being kindled with the same wonderful (?) attention.
My position was something akin to the above photo, but Cindy seated, so she used an overhead spanking downward stroke that took your breathe away, and breathed fire.

Then cheek to cheek then lower, then the top of the back of the legs, with me yelping with each spank. Cindy stopped, and as I was thanking her, she simply patted her lap, meaning get over my knees.

Many more spanks with the heart shaped paddle, with dancing feet and musical accompaniment, and then a pause, but only for Cindy to change implements, and whale away with the finger leather strap.

A well spanked husband was finally permitted to stand up, and I thanked Cindy for the spanking. dropped to my knees, and proceeded to orally pleasure her, before we moved to the bed to have a fabulous sexual encounter of mutual licking, sucking, .caressing and ...
What a wonderful time we had. Absolutely no need to be a punishment  spanking, simply a spanking that still has my bottom sore a day later, and a absolutely fun experience for both of us.

Spanking and sex... equals a wonderful time
bottoms up
Red

photos of women sitting on chairs

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My recent post probably had photos




that you have seen before
so
here
is
a collection
of newer photos of women waiting eagerly to spank you
but their patience
is
about to disappear
so scurry to bend over the knees
the best is yet to come
bottoms up
Red

wordless communication

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Just a little humor, to suggest that words of endearment are not necessarily needed to inform the male that he is about to be spanked.
Some women appreciate that at many times men wear a leash, otherwise known as a tie.
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 A little grasp of the ear and leading him does indicate a slight amount of displeasure that will be rectified on your bottom..Maybe accompanied by his thoughts
Perhaps the stare says it all
or he has already had his clothes removed
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One that is ever so nice.... with a little pout of disappointment

"Oh honey, I'm afraid I'm going to have to give you a spanking. Let's get it over with dear. Get me the strap and take your pants off."
or perhaps you are being lead in public to the nearest chair for everyone to watch you being spanked
however it is done, the end result is a foregone conclusion
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bottoms up



RED

Happy Father's Day

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I really should have thought ahead, and made a post for Father's Day
It is a nice gesture by your wife to make certain you are on your best behavior when the children come to visit...

far better than having to spank him after misbehaving
or maybe having to spank him at your mother's place when you visit your Dad today



and then making him stand in the corner while you all eat dinner
However, it might be your mother spanking him while you watch
 or it  might be your mother even joining in to help you spank him...
or maybe both your husband and your Dad have earned the right to be spanked together
However you celebrate the day... have fun
bottoms up
Red

spanking thoughts in pictures

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The wonderful things of pictures is that you can make up the dialog in your own mind...
It could be Stop right there. Be quiet, and get all of those clothes off NOW!! You know what will happen to you
Now, look me in the eye, and explain what you did wrong!

Thus, you will be spanked for your transgression
Remember
immediately followed by
 If you squirm or try to get out of position, a firm grip keeps you in place
and if you are too loud, she just might put her panties in your mouth to keep you quiet
bottoms up
Red

learning the pleasures of a foot fetish

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I thought I would post some interesting photos of pleasurable feet.
Some people have this desire, and I at times lick and suck on Cindy's toes, before placing her spanking shoes on her feet... adds an erotic start to my  being spnaked,
looking at some of these pictures
you might see something you enjoy
as a prelude to sex




but, of course, some might be considered leg men
and some men might enjoy a "happy ending"
http://naughtyfootboy.tumblr.com/  is a link to one such foot site or you might like
http://tumblrfeet.tumblr.com/archive
bottoms up
Red

more spanking tumblr sites

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Instead of highlighting just one in a posting, here is a little list of spanking sites you might like to visit...

whapsboy.tumblr.com  
has over 572 pages of spanking related pictures for your enjoyment
http://fessee.tumblr.com
has recently started posting again, with 76 pages
another is http://spankym41.tumblr.com
another http://womenwithwhips.tumblr.com

so enjoy wherever your travels take you through the tumblr world.
another good way to stay motivated when exercising
your well spanked  bottom on display
handcuffs anyone
bottoms up
Red

get upstairs

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Just a few photos to whet the appetite

follow me



or is it simply follow me

Whatever the method, the outcome is a foregone certainty...



bottoms up
RED

captions are fun

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well, another day, and more dreaming
As Ms. Kelly Payne (of tantrumtrainers.com) might say...
Now, if you follow the above, pretty soon you can have him do whatever you want, always
Here is an advantage of having a woman as your boss at work
but remember
 and
bottoms up
red
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