more effective spanking

We have had a little talk, and although many will believe this to be topping from the bottom, I tend to think of it as two rational people talking about making spankings more effective.
Cindy has been spanking far less, and actually being spanked more than ever before, but still not very often. Thus, we re-visited the topic, as to the benefits of giving an effective spanking if Cindy wants some behavior changed.Cindy also re-iterated that she did not want to hurt me, but I replied that it is a momentary pain, that when stopped leaves a sore bottom, but a well loved feeling to compensate, and also a problem has been solved, making our life happier!

Simply being upset about something in the kitchen, and having me bare my bottom, and deliver five spanks with a wooden implement, is insufficient. It neither mollifies Cindy, nor is remembered by me a few minutes later. Thus, if it is worth spanking, then do a fair number of spanks until Cindy sees the reaction from me that the spanks are being effective! Effective would be that a significant part of my bottom is red, that either I am owwwing or squirming or moving my bottom trying in vain to get it out of the direct line of fire, and maybe even shifting the weight from one foot to the other.

Yesterday, Cindy followed through, and my bottom was on fire by the time she stopped. When she finished, I thanked her, and she smiled, with a Cheshire cat type of smile, showing she was happy with the spanking she had given.

I will keep you informed as to how things develop, but I have the strong feeling that minor differences of opinions are gong to be settled with my having  a red or very red bottom.

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